How to Grow a Love Relationship
Start by not looking for it.
This should be the end of the matter, but
when the pivot happens and the words
you used to use to describe the colors
in the world seem inadequate, and
frisson shivers you on a cloudless day
and it feels like your mind has become
a lightning rod to inspiration and
it becomes necessary
to go forward, still, compelled
by inexplicable forces that move
the stars that are behind the stars,
and you feel moved by an invisible
Trav-o-lator down a concourse of
radiant butterflies, iridescent hummingbirds,
pungent roses, rainbows, and lolling unicorns
and you need a completely new vocabulary,
because even the word, LOVE, seems tinny--
STOP!
Take a breath.
And continue.
But slowly.
In your new lexicon, use words and phrases
such as Hope, Friend, Being Present,
Listen, Hugs, Yes And--,
Tell Me, Serenity, Laughter,
I’ll Wait, Teach Me, and Joy.
Use all these words and listen
more than you speak. That feeling
of searching for the best ways to find
loving expression for your
person is your new currency,
your new path,
your new way.
Yes, listen.
Ask, then listen closely.
And look. Observe, see, then remember.
The one you love is a miracle of creation
whose ancestors sacrificed for her to be
with you on this day and she is sustained
by a universe of nutrition, oxygen, healthcare,
loving family, endearing relationships,
healed scars, sleep, surging, pumping blood,
and aspirations. She has already been aided
by unseen, unknown forces beyond all
comprehension, and
this too is miraculous.
Also, say a prayer of gratitude.
Thankfulness serves as a foundation
upon which each loving act gets placed.
Then, allow for mystery.
You control nothing.
What you presume caused this love relationship
in reality lies beneath layers of hidden reasons
for which you will never know.
Get used to not knowing this
and get used to living in the mystery.
Get used to living knowing that each gifted day
is a forever moment of Now.
And you have only the Now.
As you grow in the Now,
it grows Life, and
without Life there is no Love
because Love and Life are the same.